Marriage is under attack and if you don’t take is seriously, in the coming days you might face an attack and you won’t know how to handle it.

If you missed it, I strongly recommend that you check out Part One of this message, so we can flow together.

Marriage is not an extension of another family unit but the birth of a new unit. This is how God does it:

21 And the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept: and he took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof; 22 And the rib, which the Lord God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man. 23 And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man. 24 Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh. – Genesis 2: 21-24KJV

In that scripture, God is the one who is joining this couple. When two people are entering marriage, God expects that they will give up something in order to be able to take up another. Sadly, we’re in a generation that wants to receive the most for the least possible effort. Nevertheless, the Word of God doesn’t change with the changing generations. Therefore you must understand that before you leave, you cannot cleave. The Bible is very clear about that.

Key #4

When you enter marriage, you must be fully invested and committed. You must give your life to it totally – like a pig. A pig doesn’t just give part of itself; it gives it’s all. A cow can decide to give only milk. Commitment is a choice to give up choices. Commitment means you are giving something. Marriage is not bondage; it’s a time of bonding.

Every marriage has an empty box given by God into which the couple has to make deposits every so often. Reciprocity makes a great marriage. You give up choices and you’re cemented together.

Key #5

Marriages are not sustained by prayer but by principles.

Unconditional love from husbands toward their wives:

7 Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered. – 1 Peter 3:7KJV

Sacrificial love:

21 Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God. 22 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. 24 Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing. 25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; – Ephesians 5:21-25KJV

The husband sets the temperature in his house. Christ loved the church even when they didn’t respect Him and forgiveness is the settling of accounts. Men should show leadership in the home; not muscle and money

19 Husbands, love your wives, and be not bitter against them. – Colossians 3:19KJV

Key #6

Wives respect your husbands. Submission and respect are two different things but the Lord requires both in a successful marriage.

33 Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband. – Ephesians 5:33KJV

Key #7

Know how to relate with third parties. Important to remember is this: You will never be unfaithful to your spouse with a person you’ve never been in a relationship with. Beware!

May the Lord keep you and cause His face to shine upon you even as you use these keys.